I received this dope clutch from a brand called Klutch Me and I am obsessed with it. Monday, I was brainstorming content for this post and it hit me "come through in the clutch" (pun intended). Good friendships are so important to me, so I figured this pun would be a cute spin to share my thoughts on what makes a great friend while sharing how I styled this super dope clutch!
Everyone has friends (I hope). Some of us have a ton of friends, and some of us may have a few friends. We also may have friends that we have had for years or friends that we have had for months, but one thing I have learned about friendships is that time does not matter. It's about what you do in the time of your friendship that is telling and will determine if you are a friend that comes through in the clutch!
I will be the first to admit it, I am a sensitive friend. I was talking to my husband Ernest about this last week and he told me I am obsessive with my friends (which I can definitely admit lol). Once I am your friend, and you become close to me, I REALLY CARE. I value my friendships and my close friends have a piece of my heart, always.
We all want to be good friends and I can admit, being a good friend takes effort. But it has to be an effort that you are willing to put in. So, I put together a list of 5 ways to know that you are a good friend.
Whether your friend lives right around the corner or a million miles away; be there for them and have their back. If they call you and tell you that they have something important going on or need bail money, be there- PERIOD!
Good friends don't judge each other, whether good or bad. You have to be willing to not think or speak negatively of a friend, especially if they share personal or sensitive topics with you. Be the kind of friend that can listen, but also offer up valued advice that isn't demeaning or will make the other friend feel bad about themselves. The best friendships are when both parties feel that they can come to each other and be open and honest.
No one likes a person that they can't trust. Whether it's a relationship or a friendship, trust is MAJOR. Trust is one of those things that can be hard to gain and so very easy to lose. Great friends are friends that you can trust with precious details of yourself. Trust in a friendship is knowing that no matter what, they will have your back and always have your best interest always. Be the kind of friend that is trustworthy and honest. Nothing is worst than having a lying friend. OMG- I have dealt with it and it is the worst. Mini rant: I had a friend that lied about everything, literally everything that came out of their mouths was a lie. Now, how can anyone trust a person that lies 24/7? It's annoying- so please don't be that friend! haha.
PRIORITIZE PLANS TOGETHER
I am a firm believer that people will make time for who and what they want to do. If you want to go on vacation, you can do it. If you want to go to the movies, or out to dinner, you can do that too. Why? Because you will make it a priority and you plan for it. PRIORITIES are major with anything (that's another post topic in the making lol). If you prioritize your plans with your friends they can happen. Have you ever had a person say that they can't make a outing or trip with you, but then you turn around and see them doing the same thing you asked them to do? Major side eye! You can get mad, but you have to realize that your plans was not their priority at the time. People will do what they want and find a way for what they truly want to do. I say all of this to say, prioritize plans with the people you love. Plan them out so that they can happen. Everyone is busy, I understand that; but when you put real dates on the calendar, that is how things actually come to fruition. Spending time with friends are important so find ways to make these times priority.
Whether you are checking in on a friend or texting them for their birthday, be thoughtful or considerate. Do you pray for your friends, send them a funny joke that you know will brighten up their day? It is the little things that can make a big difference.
So there you have it, from my perspective, these are the top ways to know you are being a good friend. I can admit, no friend is perfect, I am not perfect with all of these either. We all need work in some of these areas because it is hard to be 100% in them all. But the important part is the effort that is put forth in each category. Making sure our friends know that they can count on us no matter what, and that you can come through in the clutch!
Let me know your thoughts on this post. Do you have any other tips on good friendship? Share them with me below!
With Love, Passion, & STYLE,
PHOTOGRAPHY BY: Jessica Mason @jaymayfotos